"It's dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and
if you don't keep your feet, there's no knowing where you'll be swept off to."
--Bilbo Baggins, The Fellowship of the Ring
Today, I am working on some music I will be playing on a concert with Four Seasons Brass next month. Right in the middle of a phrase, it hit me how everything I am professionally, began with a selfless decision made years ago by mother, Betty Brewer.
When I was 11 years old, Jeff Hudson came over to Church Street School and tested the entire fifth grade class to see if we might be interested in playing in the middle school band the next year. Like most folks, I demonstrated some musical proficiency, and since I liked to do only things that I thought I could be successful at, I decided to do it!
One summer day, we went to AMS, to the library specifically, and I tried out several instruments. I only remember the horn and the trumpet, and I remember wanting to play horn, but according to Jeff and the salesman from Arts, Sully Sylvester, I was best suited for trumpet. We looked at several models, and settled on a lacquer-plated King 600--I thought it was gold...LOL.
For reasons I can't explain, I remember that the retail price on that horn was $484...quite a bit of money in 1984....and still so today. Mom would later buy Thomas a drum kit and Jeremie her own trumpet as well. To this day, I am in awe of the financial sacrifices my mother made for us. My family lived on the social security benefits that we all got after my dad died, and from my mom's part-time job. We weren't poor, but we weren't raking it in, either. And we NEVER did without. Mom just made things happen. Beach trips. Disney trips. Shiny, new musical instruments. And I have reaped endless benefits and blessings because she put me and my brother and sister first.
In high school, I made the all-state band. I met Shelley Hatcher, Mark Nichols, and Mike Hammonds there. Little did I know we'd all be at Troy State together in just a few years. Mike and I played mellophone together in Southwind. Mark and I used to backpack. Shelley was my formal date once in college. Crazy.
I earned a scholarship to play in the LBW Ensemble. At that time, our scholarship was full tuition and books. My first two years of college were FREE! I made lots of great friendships with some fine musicians while I was here.
I went on to Troy where I played on the world premier of at least six (that's all I can remember) pieces of music with the Symphony Band. I met Ray Cramer and Arnald Gabriel. I made more friends at Troy than I ever thought I would.
I have been all over the US playing and teaching in the drum corps activity, which is life-changing.
Even more significant than all the experiences I've been afforded is all the great MUSIC that I have been exposed to--music that has shaped my very existence.
And all of these things--EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM--were made possible....by one decision. By my mother's decision to buy me a trumpet. I can only sit here and shake my head at the thought of it. I wonder if mom knew what she was doing...if she knew how she was MAKING MY WORLD BETTER through her selflessness!!!!! Like Bilbo Baggins, I stepped out into a world that would be bigger and more amazing than I could ever imagine. Music would take me to places, geographic and metaphoric, that would shape my life forever.
As a dad, I need to remember that the decisions I make for my kids ripple through ETERNITY. My kids' great-grandchildren will be affected by what I do. Maybe, just maybe, I can be as selfless as my mother. I owe her everything plus tax. Thank you, mom. When I play Barber's "Adagio" next month, it will be for you.
Now to somehow try to actually play the trumpet....